Hey! Don't misunderstand me ¿active or passive? when an appointment is announced. Are you the one who is motivated on looking what to do, where to go, the different interests you and don't like doing the same thing over and over again? or ¿Are you the lazy one who expects others to take the initiative, ideas, organizing and then others tell you what was the plan? Well, if you're this last one you are totally a lazy dating then... jaaaaaaaa. I'm just pulling your leg. Well, let's analyze this and put my case as an example. I would say I'm the active one working full when I know I will have a date in advance I like to think what we could do, something that gives the date the place it deserves. As mentioned in the previous article I learned by living abroad much of this culture of dating in the U.S. which has it very advanced (I have not gone around Europe yet) and what I liked most was that the boys used to organize and planned dates which made me feel very special and motivated to go out and meet that special one. Obviously the most beautiful dates are the ones with your lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, husband, wife but also enjoying other events count. One of the dates I liked most was when my ex-boyfriend went to the airport to pick me up and greeted me with flowers. It was the first time I got a bouquet of flowers at an airport and it was a nice detail of him Wow!... Anywhere in U.S. it is like a daily bread... in bars, museums, theaters, cinemas, restaurants, zoo, stadiums, amusement park, shops, etc ... are all dating sites for everything, there are a thousand and one ideas and becomes easier to be part of this culture of dating because everyone else does, they all like it. There are even bars that organize "Speed Daiting". There are also events for singles where you are indicated what color of shirt you should dress according to your marital status .... cool right??, ah!!! friends also organize something to introduce you to a specific someone that they believe could be a good match for you and the rest depends on the two of you in exchanging phones, emails, etc., If someone really likes you or wants to go out with you, you find out that right away you don't usually go home without knowing if something is in the air.
Note, that not all dates are for getting "something" if your date does not work romantically talking or get the "click" at the first sight you two can go out still, seeing each other or doing things together and that's it! there's nothing wrong with that at all. Hang out with guys/girls after the first date is very common. Of course, not everything is perfect, sometimes there are disappointments that happens here..., there..., everywhere... because he or she started dating someone else. I think this happens in any culture yet cause' of the level of maturity. I think ... tell someone you're dating someone else is better than simply not call or let the other person without knowing what happened?it is not enough. Anyways, as I said I like to arrange my dates especially if the other person does not take the initiative, thinking what new to do so we can both enjoy exploring places counts a lot. Here, it frustrates me a little because there is no variety or ideas are limited.
Everything is: how I'm experiencing here? or you do different things?
I hope you enjoy it!!!
I hope you enjoy it!!!
Gracias,
AnaCe
I've only lived in the U.S. and haven't studied international dating attitudes, but I do think your assessment of the American dating scene is correct overall. There are a ridiculous number of options, so planning something special or different to do isn't difficult. Although, there are those American guys (and girls) out there who don't plan anything. Just hanging out - typically at someone's home - is how they go about dating.
ResponderEliminarI am a planner by nature, but I think that I wouldn't want to take that role in dating. I like guys to take the initiative romantically. Being "chased" is preferred. ;-) After things get comfortable, then I'm more open to mutual planning. As far as I'm concerned, I could always organize things for me and others to do. There's nothing special about that, since that's what I can do easily. If a guy obviously put some time and energy into planning a date, then it's appreciated by me. If a guy plans a date with some attention to detail - i.e. featuring aspects that are geared solely toward me and not just females in general - then they get some serious bonus points (like two thumbs up, instead of just one... lol).